Specks in one eye, planks in another...

Hey guys, Allen here! Hypocrisy: the number one thing in my life I can be so blind to or way too aware of. Whether it be about a topic I have a clear view on, for instance, if I were to say being honest is the most important thing to me, yet someone else tells me I refuse to be honest about what I feel, or any other thing, hypocrisy catches up with me. I am even hypocritical about other hypocritical people! I can look at another person and say “Wow, she’s a hypocrite...” and forget to look at myself and see what the truth is! So how do you defeat it? After all, it hits harder than most things...it leaves you seeing so much sin in yourself that you don’t know how to change. Personally, it hurts for me because I am often afraid of giving an honest opinion or thought to my fiancé, out of fear that she will be beyond angry or upset, which is honestly irrational to think. If she loves me(which I pray she does lol), then my opinion and what I want should be, and is, important to her as well as her wants with me. I hear people tell me all the time to make sure I’m going after what I want, and I refuse to even think about it out of fear of leaving or being left by my fiancé...I know, irrational, right? What I never see is my value. The way God sees me, and the way those who truly love me see me. That’s what makes a hypocrite out of me. So the way to beat this is to ask God to help us forgive our own selves and to help us see ourselves with the love God has for us. Now there is also the hypocrisy behind the person who only sees their value...it’s not hard to see for them that they need to take a step back and ask for that same forgiveness but to also ask to see that love God has for others and what they want. So the answer is simple! Ask for forgiveness, ask to be changed(repent and see yourself like God does), and start living differently, without fear of other opinions.